What are your groomsmen responsible for? Find out.
Name another event in your life where a band of your best buddies and male relatives stand around you in matching garb just to watch you make the biggest commitment of your life? Oh, that’s right. There isn’t one.
Your wedding is a huge deal so when your nearest and dearest accept the responsibility of participating in your day, it helps the day run more smoothly when you spell out exactly what you expect them to do.
- Tap the eldest or most responsible of your groomsmen to be your head usher – tell him that it is his responsibility to make sure all the other ushers show up and are: 1. Appropriately attired 2. On time and 3. Fully informed of what’s expected of them on the Big Day. (Obviously, give him the cell numbers and email addresses way before your wedding day.) Since your Best Man will likely be with you before show time and not on the “floor,” so to speak, it is not a good idea to have him as your point person.
- Groomsmen should arrive at the ceremony site 45 minutes to an hour before the ceremony begins.
- At the ceremony, the groomsmen or ushers are responsible for seating guests, whether it is a church, synagogue or secular location. Generally, the rule of thumb is one usher for every 50 guests. But since another rule–that there should be the same number of ushers as bridesmaids–supplants this formula, don’t worry if your usher-to-guest ratio isn’t spot on.
- When guests arrive, the ushers should ask if they wish to be seated on the bride’s side or the groom’s side before escorting them to their seats. Ushers should give their arm to unescorted ladies. With couples, they should converse pleasantly with them as they lead them to their seats. The ushers should also make sure the front rows remain reserved for immediate family, if so desired.
- Ushers may need to do a bit of decorating too. The ushers may unroll an aisle runner after guests are seated but before the processional begins. Also, ribbons are sometimes placed along the aisle just before the bride’s entrance to keep guests from leaving and clogging the aisle before the wedding party and immediate family enter and exit the ceremony. The ushers are the ones who put up and take down these ribbons.
- Finally, your ushers need to know where to stand after walking down the aisle escorting the bridesmaids. This can be resolved during the rehearsal the night prior, if not earlier.